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Monday, January 26, 2009

What is Appropriate?

When I first went off to college, I started doing a "zine" as a means of keeping in touch with friends who were interspersed all over the country. It was called Millet Seed; the title was taken from an Annie Dillard poem about how to pray.

Well, recently I've been digging through some of my things trying to get organized for the upcoming [hopeful] move, and I found a small essay that I wrote for Millet Seed. It's kind of fun to read the thoughts of the person I was well over 10 years ago (God help me ...).

I remember writing this essay when somebody asked me the very broad question, "What is appropriate?" And without further ado, here is what I answered.

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what is appropriate?

it is appropriate to smile at people when you walk by them in the hallway, and it is appropriate for them to smile back at you. especially if you are having a bad day. it shows that even though you may not care a lot, you care enough to move those muscles for that one extra person.

it is appropriate to be yourself.
putting up an act is not appropriate. it's not appropriate to try to have an image or to try to impress people to fit in. it's a silly waste of time.

it is appropriate to feel good about yourself. it is appropriate to look in the mirror and praise God that He made you who you are. that he has never made a mistake.

that He loves you beyond anything we can fathom.

it is appropriate to be thankful.

it is not appropriate to feel self-pity, but it is appropriate to feel lonely. it is appropriate to feel down. it is appropriate to have a bad day...as long as you realize that you can't take it out on other people.

it is appropriate to help others and not always want them to just help you. it is appropriate to give more than you receive, to love more than you are loved. to help more than you are helped. to praise more than you feel like praising.

it is appropriate to feel alone. did i say that already? i think that needs to be stressed. sometimes you will be in a place where nobody can fully understand you and where you can't fully understand them. it is appropriate to have a hard time some of the time. to have good days, to have bad days, to have really hard days.

it is appropriate to want more, to seek the truth. to believe in something better than false idols and temporary "joy."

it is appropriate to seek good friends. to not settle for people who don't think like you, who can't relate to you. it is appropriate to know that you have friends who are praying for you. who love you.

and it is appropriate to miss them when you can't be with them. it is not appropriate to let your world stop because you have stepped away from your comfort zone.

it is not appropriate to roll your eyes at somebody you can't agree with, or even to think they're stupid or weird. it is not appropriate to speak outwardly about things people love that you can't even like.

it is appropriate to sit quietly and try to shine with the love of God. it is appropriate to pray for them when you think they are doing something wrong. to tel them that you believe that God truly has a better plan for them.

it is not appropriate to use sarcasm, contempt, or bitterness as a way of making someone see the Truth.

it is appropriate to get rid of your bitterness. to talk about your worries, to work on making things better. it is appropriate to apologize before you go to sleep. to wake up praising God that today will be a better day.

it is appropriate to try to be a human being. not a monster. not a cute little stuffed animal. not a doormat. but a human being.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

A momentous day

Today I have had two very major things to ponder, as the 44th president and first African American president was inaugurated into office ... and we received an offer on our house.

One is obviously a much bigger deal than the other one. It will go down in history, mark the hope that I and many other people have for our country - that anything is possible, America has made and will continue to make great progress, and that there are many people alive today who never thought they would live to see an African American in the presidential office and now they have. I truly feel that regardless of who one voted for in the election, this day is something everyone can be proud of. And I also truly hope that Barack Obama is as great a president as his speeches are.

The other will not go down in history, but is a very big deal in my personal life. The offer we were given was an incredible low-ball. So low, in fact, that I needed to control myself from being offended by it. I know that making the decision to sell our house at this point in history may not have been the most wise decision we could make; but I believe that this loss will be made up in the form of growth in my husband's career.

Regardless, it is still disheartening to have purchased a house, loved the house, poured our blood, sweat, and tears into the house, and then face selling it with a loss on all we've put into it, all the principal we've paid, and even a loss on our initial down-payment.

We have countered and are sincerely praying they accept our counter without further negotiations. We have very little room to breathe. I would like to sell it, put it behind me, and no longer think about how much we are losing and how much it stinks.

I am ready to be filled with more hope and joy. I want to feel optimistic about my future. Optimistic about the plan God has for my family and me. And, yes, optimistic about the future of my country with its new leader. The inauguration today sincerely moved me.

As I watched Aretha Franklin singing America, the news anchor Diane Wander quoted from Martin Luther King's famous speech, "This will be the day when all of God's children will be able to sing with a new meaning, "My country, 'tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the pilgrim's pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring." I burst into tears.

Today has been a heavy and exciting day.

Friday, January 16, 2009

More from the craft show

Another favorite from the No Coast Craft-O-Rama was Rove Arounds. I sat for way too long and gushed over the adorable, unique, creative clothes at this booth.

Of course, having a little girl, I didn't spend too much time gushing over the boy clothes - but if boy clothes were something that interested me, I would have been able to gush. They also have a nice selection of women's clothes - my favorite is a tunic that also comes in a nursing version.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

Here I am, world.

Welcome, friends, to the new home of Coming Up Rosemary! I'm pretty excited about my decision to switch over here and think I will like blogging a whole lot more now that I've made the switch.

When I originally started Coming Up Rosemary! I wrote a little introductory post ... that was well over a year ago and so much has changed since then. For starters, when I began this thing I was a stir-crazy technical writer. Moderately enjoying my job, but feeling like every creative bone was being etched out of my body.

I am now a stay-at-home mom trying to figure all of this out. So far, stay-at-home mom life has not been full of all the free time I thought it would entail. I think that has something to do with trying to sell our house and living 2.5 hours away from my husband, among other things.

Coming Up Rosemary! was created to detail my journey to become an expert crafty person. To me that means writing, sewing, cooking, coloring, raising children, and so much more. Thank you for joining me along the way.

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Studio Mela

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 12.20.08.


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Of course this print drew me into her booth. Isn't it phenomenal? At some point in my life I hope to have this print in a reading nook, a library, or just by a bookshelf. If I ever become an English teacher again, you can bet this print will be in my classroom.


I snagged a business card, and headed over to the Studio Mela Etsy shop and, yes, it is now in my favorites. Many of the prints have a Black Apple feel. But they are different enough. And I love them.

Here's another for your viewing pleasure.

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Stockings!

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 11.30.08.

I asked my husband to take some nice, artsy pictures of my stockings. He's very good at those nice, artsy pictures ... much better than me. However, our nice camera was mistakenly left at a family members home this past thanksgiving. Thus, my impatience has me posting pictures taken with a camera phone.

A few years ago I made some stockings for our family, and last year I posted pictures of them here. I have never really liked my stocking, so I asked myself why I was just living with it and I made myself a new one.

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Then my fast fingers got to work, and I made a couple gifts.

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more and more and more pinafores

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 11.12.08.

I promise this is not going to be The Pinafore Blog, but I have a lot of friends having baby girls right now and so ...

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Three separate pinafores, with all the same fabric. I didn't think, until after I had cut all the fabric, that you might be able to see through the fabric - but I don't think it's too big of a deal?


These are my first pinafores without the pre-cut fabric. I think they turned out all right, and they're getting incredibly easy.


In fact, I'm really glad I started out this way. It was a good project to help me get comfortable with my sewing machine. No more pulling out the manual and studying it for an hour just to figure out how to thread the machine. I could thread the machine, wind the bobbin, and insert it with my eyes closed.

Be careful with others advice, but patient with those who supply it.

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 11.6.08.




This video, shown to me by a friend, is absolutely, profoundly, and beautifully full of advice I wish I had started listening to when I was younger. And to the best of my ability, I will follow this advice for the rest of my life. Watch it and be inspired.

Time for pumpkins!

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 10.10.08.

When I was a little kid, my mom cut jack-o-lanterns out of those roll-up blinds. She backed the blinds with orange fabric and then from outside, when the lights were on in my bedroom, the two front windows of our house were jack-o-lanterns. I anxiously await the house where I can do that!

In the meantime, take a look at these inspirational pumpkins featured on poppytalk. Here are my two favorites:

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Pinafore.

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 9.10.08.

Well, the house of Coming Up Rosemary! is still a little crazy these days. We have been motivated to finish all the projects in our home. So, the kitchen is almost complete, the basement is nearly organized, the bathroom is done (!), and so on and so forth. Oh yeah, and the house is freshly painted with a pretty green instead of an ugly blue. I'll post pictures of all these things soon.

Amidst all the craziness, I have managed to make a few things. I took an old shower curtain and made it into a curtain for our bathroom closet, and I've made a couple of pinafores. I bought the fabric and pattern for the pinafores from this Etsy website and got to work.

Here are a couple of low-quality pictures of the one I made for my god-daughter:

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I made another one for Rosemary and will post a picture as soon as she wears it. I bought a plain white shirt to go under it, since it has been unseasonably cool these days. And I'm currently making another one for little Keira.

So what I'm saying is, stay tuned for lots of pictures in the future.

Weed or No Weed: The Update

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 10.9.08.

I have the updates to the little game we played early in the growing season. There was one that definitely stumped everyone.

1. Weed

Weed or No Weed

This turned into this:
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The more it grew, the more sure I was it was a weed. I kept it there for a little while, just to see. It wasn't anywhere else in my yard and I didn't see any in the neighbors yard (which is full of weeds), so it really had me stumped. I finally decided it was pretty ugly and I was going to get rid of it.

2. Weed

Weed or No Weed

It wasn't creeping charlie; but it was something very much like creeping charlie.

3. Bee Balm

Weed or No Weed

This turned into this:
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4. Weed

Weed or No Weed

Shortly after I made the original post, I realized it was everywhere.




5. Daylily

Weed or No Weed

I forgot to take a picture of the mature version of this. But you can see it to the left of the about-to-bloom foxglove:

The foxgloves, about to bloom.

Living authentically as an artsy mom.

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 7.13.08.


I just put my little one down for her nap. As I held her in my arms while we were walking up the stairs, my tired child wrapped her arms around my neck and rested her head on my shoulder. There are absolutely no words to describe how good that feels. There is a little creature in a little bed in a little room upstairs, and she has my heart.

I spent most of my pregnancy filled with anxiety and fear that I would not be a good mom. It was a very difficult time for me and I am fortunate that the day she was born, confidence was born within me. In an instant, I knew there was nothing I wouldn’t do for that girl. Every single day for the past 2+ years, my confidence, my love for her, and my hopes for her have grown.

I think a lot about the kind of mom I am, the kind of mom I want to be, and what I can and can’t do to affect the way Rosemary perceives me. I want her to think of me as fun, creative, as a woman who loves God and shares that love with others in compassion. I want her to know how much I love her.

Sometimes I struggle with how much there is going on in my life. I am a mother, daughter, sister, and wife. I work full time, live in and help to maintain a one-hundred-year-old house, garden, attempt to create, have a mild social life, regularly participate in church, keep closely connected with my own family and my husband’s family, and really that list could go on. It’s a story familiar with almost all of us, I’m sure. When we spread ourselves so thin, it’s easy to lose the idea of who we are in the first place. What was it about ourselves that got us so involved in all these things to begin with?

That is how this blog came about. I needed a home-base. A place to show, a place to try, a place to dream, and a place to record. Holding all this stuff in my head was starting to make me sick. There are so many people and things I could possibly be an example to. When I look at my daughter, someone who takes after me in so many ways, I am daily reminded of what that means. For her, it is important that I know who I am, that I am authentic. It is important that I take care of myself in order to take better care of her.

It’s important that when she tells me, as she so often does, “I’m happy, mommy,” that I truly mean it when I respond, “I’m happy, too.”

Seeds actually grow.

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 6.27.08.

Sugarsnap peas.
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Bloom and Grow

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 6.19.08.

Our yard is so very shady. Especially along the west side of the house. I have been trying to get shade plants to flourish since our first summer in the house ... and they're spreading and growing okay, but they've never "flourished."

This year they are doing the best they've ever done. I still wouldn't say they're flourishing, but they're doing pretty good for so much shade.

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Above is a picture of the west side of our house, from the point of view of our house. The main plants you see, close up, are Sundrops. You can also see some hostas, snow on the mountain, and some ferns that my mom just gave to us this spring. I almost gave up on the Sundrops the first couple of years we had them - but this year they are doing better than almost every other plant. I can't wait for them to bloom!


Here is another picture of the garden view from the sidewalk:


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Another garden area we have going on is along the sidewalk on the other side of our fence. If you look on the inside of the fence, you can see a rock path. We laid that last summer because it's the area where Owen runs, and it used to get really muddy. This year we are going to extend the rocks down into the sidewalk garden.


I used to hate this garden, as it was full of ugly plants. There were some weed-like things and a lot of peonies - yeah, yeah, I know everyone loves peonies - but I really don't. To me, they are a glorified carnation. But maybe that's just because they never did that great in this garden. We didn't just throw them, we moved them to other areas of our yard. So, we'll see how they do.


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We ripped all those out, split up and spread out the overgrown hostas, and planted 5 Russian Cyprus plants. I don't know anything about Russian Cypress other than they are spruces, so we'll have something there through the winter, and they supposedly do well in shade. We will see!


I will have more garden pictures soon. I know it seems like this blog has turned into a garden blog, but I promise that won't be all. It's just that this is the time of season for gardening, I am really getting into it, and I consider gardening to be a craft.


Thanks for reading.

Friday, January 9, 2009

Onesie patches

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 6.4.08.

If the dear readers of this blog don't frequent the angry chicken, you are sincerely missing out. I find it to be such a motivating blog and so full of good ideas.

Take a look at the directions for these adorable homemade patches that were fixed onto baby onesies:

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I'm going to have a new little niece or nephew pretty soon and I feel very motivated to get to work on some clothing for this little one.


You might also be interested in this post where she dyed some baby clothing and then fixed these patches. So cute!

And here's another link from Amy: #

http://weewonderfuls.typepad.com/wee_wonderfuls/2008/05/new-babies.html

Weed or No Weed?

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 5.20.08.

Last year, while doing the initial garden weeding, I accidentally weeded my daisies. Every year I think about taking pictures of the early sprouts of plants and/or weeds that I am not sure of. This year I actually did.

Join me as we play Weed or No Weed, make guesses, share actual knowledge, and watch these things grow. What do you think? Weeds or not?

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1. I predict this is NOT a weed. But I don't know what it's going to be!


 


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2. I really thought this was going to be Bee Balm, but you'll notice the next picture actually has a marker that says 'Bee Balm' next to it, so now I'm stumped.


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3. I didn't notice the little marker that says 'Bee Balm' until after I took this picture. My original guess was that this was a weed, but now I'm not so sure.


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4. I am almost positive this is a weed. But I was feeling gun shy about ripping it out because of the mishap last year with the daisies.


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5. I do not think this is a weed. Could it be a day lily? A black-eyed susan? I do not remember planting either of those here, but I guess we'll wait and see.

They're here!

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 5.16.08.


They're really, really here. My tulips have popped out and are actually blooming. It took a long time, they came incredibly late - but they're here!

Tulips!


Tulips are one of my favorite flowers. Why? Well, because they're one of the first flowers to greet you after a long, cold winter. When tulips bloom, they say, "Take that, winter, we're done with you!"

This winter fought long and hard. But I feel we can safely say goodbye.

Yay, tulips!


Looks like it's time for some more spring planting.

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Am I playing or am I cooking? Now, that’s a great question.

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 3.18.08.

Here is a pattern for an oven mitt/monster/puppet. I am going to make this. This fantastic creature will grace my new kitchen and that is a promise. I found it over at making it fun. Which is exactly what they are doing ... making it fun.

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In case you need another link, I'll be adding this website to the links on the sidebar on the right.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

kitchen pictures, as promised

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 3.14.08.

I didn't actually take "before" pictures. So, the best I can do is to show you some previous pictures that just happen to have been taken in the kitchen ...

Here is our sink/dishwasher area:

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The stove. Above it is the microwave an some cabinets, to the left is the refrigerator:

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And finally, you can kind of see the windows, the dishwasher, the hideous vinyl flooring, and a little bit of the hutch. I know I have a picture of the hutch, but I think it must be saved on a different computer. I spent wayyyy too much time looking for it. I'll post it later if I find it:

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You also get to see really muddy Owen. :P

Now, here is the kitchen as it is today:

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We plan to get new counter-tops, flooring, and at least a new dishwasher and oven. Obviously we have to paint the walls and put glass (or something) in the hutch area.

I'm really open to color ideas, as I don't seem to have any ...

Easter Eggs!

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 3.11.08.

I find myself very inspired by these crafty eggs found at inspire co.

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You can click on the link for a very good how-to.


In the meantime, I'll be searching the web for something home-made to add to what the Easter Bunny will be putting in Rosemary's Easter basket. Stay tuned.

Goody goods

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 2.15.08.

A market after my own heart ... Poppytalk Handmade has a green theme this month. Not only do I love the color green, but I am also committed to making good decisions for the environment. So! With a little reminder that Earth Day is approaching, perhaps you should celebrate by purchasing me something lovely from the Poppytalk Handmade spotlights.

Kidding (Well, sort of :-P ).

In any case, here are some of my favorites:

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A GORGEOUS print from Creative Thursday.

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Recycled paper cards from nest pretty things.

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A skirt from orangyporangy.

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Little birdy measuring spoons from beehive kitchenware.

Time is a whimsy

Originally posted on www.cominguprosemary.com on 2.17.08.



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I am desperately in love with this clock made on one of my favorite crafty blogs - inspireco. I am so excited for the day when I have time and energy to do this sort of thing on my own. I feel it is right around the corner. Time is something I increasingly have these days, woohoo!